We know that being judgmental is not good behavior yet we judge ourselves all the time. That voice inside our heads can be positive or negative; this is called self-talk. Unfortunately, that inner voice is more often negative than positive reminding us of all of our faults rather than of our wonderful qualities. Why do we do this? The answer is low self-esteem.
There are times in our lives
when we don’t feel good about ourselves like when we decide that we’re not
moving forward in our lives in some way that we think we should. We have a
tendency to look at others then judge ourselves. They have the house already or
a better job therefore we failed. We should be thinking that the other person
is just ahead of us and we will get there in our own time. Everything in its
own time, right? Or that’s how it should be. Instead, we judge others for
having more or being prettier or thinner or going on a neat vacation.
Rather than judge ourselves, or others why not just accept the situation for
what it is? Its human nature to compare one to another; we are creatures of a
pack, team or community. But in those relationships we must take care not to
think less of ourselves for our points that are just different. We all do this.
Last night I almost didn’t go out dancing because I’ve gained a few pounds due
to less activity while my ankle was healing from an injury. I convinced myself
that I needed to go out and that being with people would make me feel better
rather than being alone. The woman in charge of the dance who is very tiny
commented that due to her hurting foot she had gained 8 pounds. Wow I was
surprised. So it happens to many people. I felt ok and decided that rather than
judge myself for having gained weight I would focus on losing it now that my
activity could increase.
In other words when your self-talk becomes negative find a way to stop yourself
to make it positive. Life will flow better and you will soar along with your self-esteem.
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